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Wednesday, February 13, 2013

What Have You Done For Him Lately? by Sandra Dailey

It’s Valentine’s Day…but wait! Put that card down. Yes, right now. Drop those flowers in some water. There’s a vase under the kitchen sink. Don’t open that heart shaped box of candy yet. I saw that eye roll. For heaven’s sake stop searching the man’s pockets for jewelry store receipts.

Do you think you’re the only one in the world having Valentine’s Day today? I see you nodding your head. Don’t let your tiara fall off, Princess. It’s February 14th for everybody and your name isn’t printed on the calendar. There’s no need to check, take my word for it…Put down the darn calendar!

Tell me something. What do you have planned for your man tonight? Ewwww, T.M.I.! I mean, while you still have clothes on. Sure, his motor is always running, but won’t you like to put him in the mood to rev yours up a little higher.

Give and take doesn’t mean him giving and you taking. NO IT DOESN’T. It means both of you giving as much as you take. Don’t pout, just sit down and listen.

This weekend I did a little research. I talked to three very important men who are known to be romance experts, namely, my husband, my brother, and my son. What can I say; I brought the boy up right. Anyway, this is what I learned.

Husband:  “The most romantic thing a woman ever did for me was when you’d put the kids to bed early or send them to your sister’s house. We’d have a nice quiet dinner without any arguments, spilt milk or spaghetti flying across the table. Then we’d relax with a movie that didn’t have to be animated. It really relieved the stress of the day. It meant a lot to me that you understood what I needed.”

Don’t smirk, he was a farmer then. He worked from sun-up until after dark, sometimes seven days a week. And, we had four kids all born within three years. The place was a zoo!

Brother:  “The best gift a woman can give me is something that lightens my load; have the lawn done or get my car detailed. Take care of one of those chores I’ve been trying to get to. That tells me that you understand the stress my work schedule puts me under and you want to help. Another great gift is something that fits my interests; a new sports bag or a fishing pole. It shows that you know what interests me and you support it.”

Don’t start shaking your head. You spend more money on a pair of shoes. And, he’s not asking you to bait a hook, for heaven’s sake.

Son:  “The most romantic gift I’ve ever received was a rock. My girlfriend gave me a polished heart shaped stone. It wouldn’t mean anything to anyone else, but it touched me. I keep it in my pocket and it reminds me of her all day long. It makes me smile.”

Yeah, I know, here’s a tissue.

Men are simple creatures, easy to please. So plan a nice dinner. Put on a sexy dress and a pair of heels. Feed the kids early tonight. Buy him something nice. And, while you wait for him to come home, you can buy my book.

Okay, okay, leave me a nice comment with your email address and you may be the person I send a free copy…but just one.

Twice the Trouble

Lacey Carlyle has worked for years to create the perfect blend of home, business and family. Now she risks losing everything when the land she farms is bought by the man who abandoned her thirteen years ago.

Alex has never understood why Lacey walked away from him. Now, he holds the deed to her farm and intends to make her pay. The only problem – two kids weren’t part of the plan.

Jenna and Jarrod may not see eye-to-eye but they are both determined to find happiness for their mom and keep their home safe.

Can Lacey and Alex put their pasts behind them and embrace a future together?

Available on Amazon

More about my online friend and awesome supporter--oh, and if you haven't read her THE CHIEF'S PROPOSAL, you're missing out. I simply loved the Chief and his story. Sigh ladies...simply sigh...

Sandra Dailey is an avid reader and lifelong story teller.  She caught the writing bug after winning a short story contest.  The Chief’s Proposal was her first published work and now she’s added Twice the Trouble, but she has many more stories to tell.
Sandra currently lives with her husband in north Florida.

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Calisa Rhose said...

Haha Great post ladies! My kids are all grown and moved out and it's just myself and hubby now--and four dogs. What's stopping me from carrying out a sexy night? Oh, let's see...maybe it's that 7 year old granddaughter who lives with us. Or not. I can send her to one of the parents or my youngest daughter (who lives down the road from us) for a few hours. Yes. That's a good idea. But then what do I do with the father in-law whom we care for? He has no reasoning left after a stroke. Comes and goes as he pleases and refuses to go stay with any of hubby's sibs no matter what or for how long. *sigh* We work it out though. It takes a lot of love and talent to get around everyone. :) Oh- and he prefers animated shows... lol

Sandra Dailey said...

Hubby is a lucky man Calisa. He has a loving and understanding wife to help care for his father and a seven-year-old to share animated movies with. Love to you all.

Niecey Roy - Romance Author said...

I'm that girl who actually expects nothing for V-day, would rather skip the holiday altogether. I'm happy with a movie, my husband and kids all snuggled up on our couch, and a big bowl of popcorn and hershey kisses. The agreement started years ago when he was very sweet and decided to buy me clothes for V-day. He came home with a pair of too tight overalls. I didn't even know people still wore overalls at that time...ha ha!!! But it was so sweet of him. And I hated making him feel bad about them not fitting or being fashion suicide. I told him I loved the gift, then days later said there was a rip in the seam and I had to take them back. Told him there wasn't my size in stock and got the money back. I used the money to take us out to dinner :) Since then, we made a pact to not get eachother anything for V-day. Instead, we go out to dinner with our kids and celebrate as a family :)

Sandra Dailey said...

Great idea Niecey. We were married just before Christmas and agreed to do the same for our anniversary.

Jannine Gallant said...

Love the rock! Sounds like you raised a great kid.

Sandra Dailey said...

Jannine, my kids are hopeless romantics. They've been around their parents too much.

Kathryn Knight said...

Those are great thoughts on Valentine's Day! I'm with Niecey, we don't really celebrate. But today I found my hubby's ipod next to the coffeepot with a note that said "Press Play" and it was the song from our wedding dance! Great post Sandra & Vonnie & the book sounds great. Beautiful cover.

Kathy Otten said...

We don't do Valentine's Day. It's my daughter's birthday and we always did cake and presents. I totally understand the farmer thing. My husband and I dairy farmed for ten years with three kids all born in the first six years of that time period. I miss the cows, but I'm glad we're not tied to it 24/7 anymore.

Sandra Dailey said...

I hear you Kathy. My husband semi-retired to a job working only 40 hours a week.

Kim Hornsby said...

I'm working at Macy's today but wearing red and told my husband and kids Happy V Day. That's about all I can manage. Oh and the fact that my book is #2 on FREE Kindle Suspense and for my husband, that might translate into sales, which is better than getting him a lawnmower.

Sandra Dailey said...

Yayyyy Kim!!! That's the best V-day present! I do love suspense. Going to Amazon now.

Angel Nicholas said...

I couldn't agree more, Sandra! When I'm in a relationship, I adore doing special things for my guy, Valentine's Day included. It's an opportunity to express your love - who said it was exclusive to women receiving?? Good job getting the message out there. Our culture seems to be producing far too many princesses of late. :)

Sandra Dailey said...

Well said, Angel. Thanks for coming by.

Kathryn Knight said...

We don't really celebrate Valentine's Day anymore after 17 years of marriage. I don't want chocolate and flowers are way overpriced on this day. But this morning my husband left his iPod next to the coffeepot with a note that said Press Play, and it was our wedding song. That's the kind of sweet gesture I appreciate! Best of luck with the new release Sandra!

Sandra Dailey said...

Thank you Kathryn. It sounds like you have a husband with a romantic heart.

Diane O'Key said...

Love your advice from the guys!
Good stuff :-) I never "expect" anything, but as my husband's done every year for the last 47 (though I tell him not to), he gives me a dozen long-stemmed roses, white this year.
Happy VD!